Why is it so hard to be yourself & share YOUR light, among a sea of grey people following each other?

By Tanya Faramarzian

This is a more serious topic today than I usually write. This topic has been on my mind as I start to write my first book and has made me reminisce on my childhood and times that family and friends tried to dim my light, told me that I had to change who I was to 'fit in' and I remember feeling the weight of their negative energy (trying to push their ideals, energy & view of the world on to me) I would get sick as I would absorb it when I wasn't able to protect myself. 

You see, people who are unhappy with themselves will try to put other people down so they can take their light, take their energ,y and on some leve,l they are scared of their own light, scared to make changes, scared to be happy or like themselves. It takes courage to stand up for yourself and not back down. The picture for this article really resonated with me this morning, a woman, bright and colourful, having packed her bag and ready to leave home and find herself (that's what I did), only to be met with a sea of grey people. When I talk about 'grey' people, my definition is people who follow and don't think for themselves (fyi, that is no way to live your life). 

As an example, I was talking with my husband's cousin last week and I was saying how happy I am with my business, finding myself again (For context, I have been going through early menopause and I am officially post menopause and feel like teenage Tanya at age 43). I recently dyed my hair hot pink, which I am loving by the way, and I am planning holidays and business trips for the next 2 years. I want a tattoo for my 44th birthday, writing a book, etc. I am excited, and as I am talking, she turns around and says, "Oh, so when are you going back to being blonde, your usual style?". 

I took a deep breath and said That's not how I like my hair, that's normal Tanya's hair (her face was hilarious). You see, I really do feel like a teenager, and all I did was rebel at that age. 

So I have decided I WILL rebel again! I see NOTHING wrong with me, I have decided that it is everyone else's problem (Ironically the topic of my first book) I choose to love myself, ALL of me and I enjoy being different, I don't plan on being 'normal' and I won't wear boring colours like brown (I am so sorry if you look fantastic in brown, I am a Summer/water child I need colours).

You know EVERYONE is different, and we should let people shine and be themselves. Next time you feel the urge to say something negative about another person, STOP and ask yourself Why am I doing this?  Is it when you are with a certain person? Maybe their energy is rubbing off on you...... or is it just you and you are not happy with who YOU are..... (food for thought).

Just remember, love who you really are, don't listen to what others say. You are an incredible & fantastic person and if no one will celebrate that with you, then you go and celebrate it yourself EVERYDAY! Look in that mirror in the morning and tell yourself, "I love ALL of you, just the way you are". That reminds me, I forgot to do that this morning! Bye for now.

Love Tanya xx